You use people - you get used.
You are used by people - you use.
You think this is 'normality'?
Likewise the Chain of Pain, there is the equivalent Chain of Use.
Until somebody breaks it.
And it is YOU who got to do.
Just a reminder as this inter-dependency won't change until WE do so. Even though we can analyze and therefore understand all causalities behind, at a point, it does not matter whether you have been enchained yourself if you keep on doing the same to others whom you think you are in power of NOW as others have been in power of you BEFORE.
Or even are in power of you 'til TODAY, as you are hostage of someone who had no right to do that to you. If you do soul work, you can even SEE these jail guards and perpetrators inside human beings. Just the beings themselves can't, obviously that's part of that ridiculous game.
Also it is no excuse if you prefer to choose the passive-aggressive style - PA is same a type of aggression and there is no such 'but I didn't do anything'. The Qu'ran, by the way, is very consciously using 'passive' aggression in an instruction for punishing women who don't 'obey'. You may well think about how much this kind of sheer conditioning is inhumane, and whether it has been experimented with on you if you do.
The worst chains are those you cannot see and keep denying.
And those you are tought to glorify.
The tricky part is to differentiate healthy, fruitful connections by free will and unhealthy, destructive ones by chains, especially if that is the only estate you have ever known. Someone in chains will even flee healthy relations due to his estate of being hostage in an unhealthy relation, no matter whether his/her hostage taker is still alive (on this planet) or not. This goes far beyond the material world.
What I can say is that it is a long, long way.
Nevertheless, lots of love for this another brand new day,
Lyn
