"Ain't no love in the heart of the city, stay safe people."
Obvious a tweet of a young man entangled in his own hostage situation which led to unguided outburst of self-hate on uninvolved third parties. I am sorry. To me the whole thing going on each time sounds like a kind of 'and another little baby child is born ... in the ghetto'.
Not to take the term ghetto literally, please, more to be seen as a metaphor. The ghetto though is the 'ghetto inside'. Created by mischief.
For me it usually works that way that if I am breeding on a question in mind it takes some time, and I will be lead to the answers, on various ways. Whether I like the surrounding circumstances is another issue, usually I get into something which involves me with all heart and brain and physically, logical when those are not disconnected. While I can certainly state for the strange kind of culture I grew up in, lucky enough to receive plenty of comparative information, that it still carries lots of unresolved traumata from past generations, anyone seriously interested in complex inter-reactions latest since last year must have started to deal with what is going on with a complete, so-called cultural, group whose mainly young males are so easily to misguide. Not that others are not misguided - of course they are, each by an individual story of inner-familial, usually psychological abuse. Else you could not explain why people are considering other people to not exist but as objects, and the cause is most usually a block in a healthy psychological and emotional development, combined with uncontrolled greed ('wanna have') and narcissistic grandiosity ('wanna be' + 'control').
People who have not overcome these feelings by knowing who they are, what they really need and how to stand on own feet will always remain in a status of dependency, a child status which may never turn adult which means become a 'man' or 'woman'. or 'human' as a whole. Puberty is not an easy change, additionally, but next, remaining in the 'revolting' phase means also not to become free - it only means to always be against, which means you can't go FOR what you really want. Also in this stage, many are stuck.
If you don't turn into an adult, you can't experience ever real - not peer-group or reactive - friendship and also not love between a man and woman either but only repetitions of the implanted hostage situations. Then, also anyone is probably your enemy (while in real life, certainly there is other reason enough to consider someone enemy for what he has done. Here, it is more about the fantasized enemies - which can become real enemies, certainly). Most logically that in such underdeveloped estate one should never make children oneself .... but again this is a theoretical idea because people grow physically into men and women but usually never mind- and heart-wise.
Our 'cultures' are the hindrance - the Western as the Eastern, just the same. We can pick out and keep the good parts, though, and abandon what makes sick.
As long as we as humans, generally, keep on going the same old ways, there truly won't be love in the hearts. Only the latter would form civilizations and cultures worth the title. What we have created and live in now, globally, is a disaster and whoever has not noticed by now must be emotionally blind.
My empathy, love, sorrow and mourning for every single of those victims, and the victims of the victims. And the victims of the victims of the victims ....... as every single child was certainly not born for that kind of fruit. Please understand well that to me this is no excuse either. I have often enough suffered myself physically, psychologically, emotionally, financially and whatever kind of under the deeds of such mislead humans. But it is for me relevant to at least understand, which is not the same as excusing. what leads to another.
Only if we under-stand we might be able to act preventative and find better ways.
Something interesting I tracked with regard to male circumcision, an underestimated source of unhealed as yet underestimated trauma, these days:
Ritual circumcision and risk of autism spectrum disorder in 0- to 9-year-old boys
Results: With a total of 4986 ASD cases, our study showedthat regardless of cultural background circumcised boys were more likely than intact boys to develop ASD before age 10 years. Risk was particularly high for infantile autism before age five years.
Circumcised boys in non-Muslim families were also more likely to develop hyperkinetic disorder.
Just something to consider further.
I really think there should be much more research on the psychological, sociological and psychosomatic inter-connections and long-term effects of this early childhood traumatization.
For myself, I am glad that whatever had happened to me, and life here was not very kind to me anyway, I always kept on wondering and that I always was connected to the 'other' world which knows, while we in this world are more supposed to 'not know', and which allowed me to re-assemble each time, and probably saved a lot in my children, and some others, too.
And I am glad, the more the more I learn about the issue, that my instincts have made me protect my boy child from that ritual traumatization, even if I have paid a high price myself fighting that violator who was, most funny of all, heavily supported by state authority in all of his moves to break and pursue a mother of small children. Honestly. Shame on a society which calls itself guided by Human Rights and on its dark side does such to their healthy mothers instead of being glad that at least someone is mother enough to protect her child from useless violation. And myself I am very glad to have learned mothering from a cat and not a human mother. It can be difficult, but nevertheless most often healthy to step out of chains and vicious circles, indeed.
Yet, I understand (not justify!) that the broken hate un-brokenness for itself.
Because if the would allow, the would have to admit their own brokenness, and mourn about what they have not had or what they lost. This is to be prevented, sustainably, be their implicit 'Ego-Defence-League'. Or, as the demon said: 'You can call me Legion, as we are many'.
No one of us can turn around the past but each of us can do better. Not always perfect, as we are on the go - and we also need to forgive ourselves where we could not make it but we tried, at least. Yet, I see a lot of people fighting for the better, risking their lives, status, material and physical integrity. These are the heroes and heroines, actually.
Someone, standing for so many others, who wanted to become a lion but yet remained a cub, will be executed for the deeds of his mother who was not mother to protect and teach her children well.
One among many, many others in the chain.
All those boys who never were and will be allowed to become men, always and forever be personal hostages, never allowed to find out about love, they are blood sacrifices of slave women breeding slaves. Even despite the gift of life in their hands should have awakened them. I understand they are victims themselves - but also that they make it just too easy.
Yet, a few examples show that also this can be survived though generally rather not. These exceptions though are no good reason for mankind to keep going on with purposely violating and mutilating children's souls. If an old man once upon the time had suffered from phimosis, it's his personal thing. Just like so perfectly persiflaged in 'The Life of Brian', because Brian coincidentally has lost his sandal, all 'follwers' are taking off their sandals. Hum.
Why I am writing all of this? Because it is heart-breaking if you look into the souls of wonderful persons and have to find that they will always choose the painful way just due to what has been done to them - by their 'culture' but also by their 'mothers' who have let it happen, and thus do not deserve such title at all. Of course, there is all other repression around.
For a human child though, like for a baby lion or any baby mammal, the mother who is the primary protection freely giving the cub away for ritual violation is forever deeply engraved.
The best we maybe can do (when shit has already happened) is to find out and understand that blood line is for the soul more or less coincidental, thus retrieve our very own right to live according to our soul-selves and not pursue what our ancestors have messed up. Yet, I think that this world is quite through and this might only help as a preparation for after the big disaster. We only can do what we can do but yet need to have tried our very best, at least.
Anyway, we should have in mind:
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls ...
... but protect their bodies and souls.
What they will do later is another chapter.
Could have become a lion, could have become a wise owl, or a Raven, or ... - we don't know.
But what we know is that they never become men and women if we - parents and the whole society, too - don't do our very best to guide them well and support them to become 'humanes'.
Keep going, heart pure and head high, with lots of love and strength for whatever happens,
Lyn
