After digging again some more into it as the chapter to me is not really closed, I though have not found the final conclusion. Yet, I think if there is a reason for male circumcision it is the medical aspect that in the process the foreskin is separating from the glans, little 'pockets' are occurring between the skins which can not be cleaned properly and might cause serious infections. I have seen such and can lively imagine such an infect is almost impossible to solve in an environment where water lacks and heat is creating wonderful habitats for bacteria.Thus, a circumcision might make some medical sense in a certain baby age.
While when it is processed with boys of an age they already can make up their own minds in many ways, they will be aware of the cheating by society and yet, need to undergo exactly this for belonging to exactly this society. My pediatric from such a cultural background whom I was connected with for years and was also consulting the demand of my son's father to circumcise the boy, had told me explicitly how the little boys were physically frightened of any further medical examination when, after summer holidays, came back from their home countries where their circumcision parties had taken place. The boys themselves have no way or chance to reject the procedure, also they, as every child, wanna be good boys and be loved - and such will have to suppress the feeling of no control and also no right for own control over themselves but the body remembers. Many African countries are also circumcising, this rite is not depending on a Muslim background as often imagined. Maybe even it is likely that the ritual is deriving from the Inner African areas rather than the Arabian. There are several clear influential connections between the Inner African and Northern African/Near and Middle East traditions.
This conflict remains unsolved for the victims psychologically, and in their whole environment, which are all treated this very same way, not daring to mentally leave a social context everyone is depending on, they rarely will find anyone who might, as a 'knowing witness', stabilize their healthy intuition that something wrong is done to them.
Honestly, it resembles a rape by a member of your own family where the perpetrator(s) will tell that this is love and makes you a better, a special person while the mother silently agrees with it, neither naming the abuse nor helping or defending their child. The mother, at the same time, has to suppress and neglect her own natural bond with the child as otherwise, she would need to fight for his health, completeness (whole-ness) and sanity.
I would just be happy if some responsible psychologists might not always duck away from any serious issue just because it might not be politically conform.
Maybe we get to understand some more why violated persons, if not capable of transforming the violence perceived, will always and often in in-understandable manners continue to spread destruction, in one or the other way. Not a healthy destruction, where something that really is rotten must be removed. Like in a well-planned and properly pre-examined surgery. But a destruction steered by not knowing why you do it and what you do, but just initiated by someone who knows your trigger to reactivate all the pain which has become hatred and self-hatred meanwhile and steers lost boys with promises for non-existing and in queer logic.
They are not offered better solutions and ways. And the other problem is that, in order to get over a pain which is suppressed, you fully have to feel it - to just then let it go. Something quite unpleasant. As additionally, it is not just the pain of a physical cut, but the pain to realize that your own kin has forsaken you, your own mother, your own father., and that they are also victims, no heroes or heroines, and that they even do not have the strength at all to protect their own child. You. Me. But facing truth is necessary to become aware and step out of the crazy roller coaster you are strapped into and which is the ruler that keeps you going, not you who steers it.
Clearly I must state that I have never agreed with the bombing of Iraq, or Western engagement in Afghanistan or any other such intervention and so I sometimes can also understand well the other side. To me it always was and always is personally terribly hurting to see how people and states as just larger entities act and interact on others against human ethics and against human rights in all those fights, internal, external, just all. It is no difference whether someone from this or from another Nation or whatever kind of group is offending, violating, taking other persons', other peoples' rights, their lives, their all.
And yet, despite all knowing and understanding what causal reactions are going on inside so-called humans, all understanding 'how the machinery works',
Anyhow, they all will be confronted. Sooner or later - those that have the stronger deals with the demons may look like they are invincible, but believe, this is not true and will turn around, against themselves.
And yet, there is always some on top.
I actually have no clue, with all strength and hope and good belief inside, how a child boy who is so disembodied by his environment to decapitate in a long procedure a co-human's head, can ever be saved anymore in this or the other or any world. I just know that while all this is happening, more and more souls in the abyss are howling, more and more people have themselves been acquiring their very own ticket to that same place, all of them for that place of no re-turn.
It is so difficult and especially in these times where sooner or later it is for everyone of us about to and how to survive. But we must be aware that all that is happening is being done by us humans, either by active doing or by letting things happen. Humans are under various spells, and themselves must re-al-ize and re-al-ign to what they choose - as yet it is we who choose - as better.
They could be, if somehow doable - and I see there are sometimes definitely reasons why and when something is not doable - like sparks in the dark, and even if only a little bit and only for seconds in time. Already few seconds is more than never or nothing.
We are not perfect. But we ARE.
By the way, thanks to A., fine soul yet so torn and remote-controlled, for providing me with through working with me on cross-continental insights. We have a heritage in common, bro.
Love,
Lyn
While when it is processed with boys of an age they already can make up their own minds in many ways, they will be aware of the cheating by society and yet, need to undergo exactly this for belonging to exactly this society. My pediatric from such a cultural background whom I was connected with for years and was also consulting the demand of my son's father to circumcise the boy, had told me explicitly how the little boys were physically frightened of any further medical examination when, after summer holidays, came back from their home countries where their circumcision parties had taken place. The boys themselves have no way or chance to reject the procedure, also they, as every child, wanna be good boys and be loved - and such will have to suppress the feeling of no control and also no right for own control over themselves but the body remembers. Many African countries are also circumcising, this rite is not depending on a Muslim background as often imagined. Maybe even it is likely that the ritual is deriving from the Inner African areas rather than the Arabian. There are several clear influential connections between the Inner African and Northern African/Near and Middle East traditions.
This conflict remains unsolved for the victims psychologically, and in their whole environment, which are all treated this very same way, not daring to mentally leave a social context everyone is depending on, they rarely will find anyone who might, as a 'knowing witness', stabilize their healthy intuition that something wrong is done to them.
Honestly, it resembles a rape by a member of your own family where the perpetrator(s) will tell that this is love and makes you a better, a special person while the mother silently agrees with it, neither naming the abuse nor helping or defending their child. The mother, at the same time, has to suppress and neglect her own natural bond with the child as otherwise, she would need to fight for his health, completeness (whole-ness) and sanity.
The psychological dilemma from such is known.
I would just be happy if some responsible psychologists might not always duck away from any serious issue just because it might not be politically conform.
Aaah, forgot, they earn their money with broken souls, not healthy ones, n'est ce pas.
Maybe we get to understand some more why violated persons, if not capable of transforming the violence perceived, will always and often in in-understandable manners continue to spread destruction, in one or the other way. Not a healthy destruction, where something that really is rotten must be removed. Like in a well-planned and properly pre-examined surgery. But a destruction steered by not knowing why you do it and what you do, but just initiated by someone who knows your trigger to reactivate all the pain which has become hatred and self-hatred meanwhile and steers lost boys with promises for non-existing and in queer logic.
They are not offered better solutions and ways. And the other problem is that, in order to get over a pain which is suppressed, you fully have to feel it - to just then let it go. Something quite unpleasant. As additionally, it is not just the pain of a physical cut, but the pain to realize that your own kin has forsaken you, your own mother, your own father., and that they are also victims, no heroes or heroines, and that they even do not have the strength at all to protect their own child. You. Me. But facing truth is necessary to become aware and step out of the crazy roller coaster you are strapped into and which is the ruler that keeps you going, not you who steers it.
Clearly I must state that I have never agreed with the bombing of Iraq, or Western engagement in Afghanistan or any other such intervention and so I sometimes can also understand well the other side. To me it always was and always is personally terribly hurting to see how people and states as just larger entities act and interact on others against human ethics and against human rights in all those fights, internal, external, just all. It is no difference whether someone from this or from another Nation or whatever kind of group is offending, violating, taking other persons', other peoples' rights, their lives, their all.
And yet, despite all knowing and understanding what causal reactions are going on inside so-called humans, all understanding 'how the machinery works',
we must preserve, like treasures, the little sparks of wholly that we have secretly in us, and reach out to get back what is ours from those that have taken. Slowly. In minds, and in souls.
Anyhow, they all will be confronted. Sooner or later - those that have the stronger deals with the demons may look like they are invincible, but believe, this is not true and will turn around, against themselves.
No Illusionist will reveal his tricks to the audience he needs to gain fame with.
And yet, there is always some on top.
I actually have no clue, with all strength and hope and good belief inside, how a child boy who is so disembodied by his environment to decapitate in a long procedure a co-human's head, can ever be saved anymore in this or the other or any world. I just know that while all this is happening, more and more souls in the abyss are howling, more and more people have themselves been acquiring their very own ticket to that same place, all of them for that place of no re-turn.
It is so difficult and especially in these times where sooner or later it is for everyone of us about to and how to survive. But we must be aware that all that is happening is being done by us humans, either by active doing or by letting things happen. Humans are under various spells, and themselves must re-al-ize and re-al-ign to what they choose - as yet it is we who choose - as better.
It is ridiculous if the healthy adapt to the non-healthy just because those are majority.
They could be, if somehow doable - and I see there are sometimes definitely reasons why and when something is not doable - like sparks in the dark, and even if only a little bit and only for seconds in time. Already few seconds is more than never or nothing.
We are not perfect. But we ARE.
By the way, thanks to A., fine soul yet so torn and remote-controlled, for providing me with through working with me on cross-continental insights. We have a heritage in common, bro.
Love,
Lyn
