30 June 2013

Just Some Words on Words

Words.


Words have been mutilated, torn, turned around, been disfigured, used to touch, to share, to exchange but also been abused to mean something else than they have meant before, something else than they mean by themselves.

People like to distinguish themselves and their very own (possible) peers by adding codes ... which serves a kind of power plays, only, but never a respectful togetherness. Especially not togetherness over a wider social context. Wherever words are abused, they turn against - against someone, against groups. The main essence is: being against, to form a 'one power' versus an imaginary enemy. An inner and an outer. A black - and a white. Between those, being built: walls. Total nonsense, and totally unnecessary. But this is just my view.

Language connects.

Language separates. 


Language, lingua. Tongue(s).


The word is what it is: the word with its very own meaning, developed over hundreds of thousand of years from very first expressions of emotion to differentiated, sophisticated meanings. This was a long long process which is, as information, stored and remembered straight within us. This IS, this remains, no matter what people add, blur or distort.

As soon as people find they have power with the words the use and choose, and if they use them
The outcome is in-congruence between what we 'know' and what is put on us.

  • In-congruence makes it difficult to take the proper actions. 

  • In-congruence disables us to identify the real picture. There is conflict starting up, inside. It makes us stumble.

  • Where already analysis goes wrong it gets quite unlikely that the proper remedy or reaction is chosen.



Most likely, this is what is intended - no matter whether the intention is obvious or conscious to the actor or whether he or she is using this tactics by just having adopted it from an environment which also has not learned it any better. If we dig in the past, in our generational heritage, we might find out where a switch might have happened. Most likely, it gets impossible to find. It already is difficult to find out what happened only two generations before. There is so much shame, so much where people would like to close the sight on something that is hurtful. There is so much taboos.

And next: consider that our language including words is very very old. Unimaginably old, actually.

 

It starts (and started) with the first babbling sounds any child respectively our predecessor species have uttered and found that and what it impacts - inside, outside, in between. And probably starting much earlier - translating the outer world as an inborn expression and impression, a native verbal and nonverbal communication medium. The tongue senses most complexly, it is connected and wired in most dense ways, to control it for reasons of drinking breast-milk is one of the biggest challenges any human faces. Any and every of us.

So tongue - and language - has developed together with us humans all along the way of evolution, accompanying evolution of complexity in our brains. Words create frequencies, words carry information. Frequencies resonate, they transport information, they penetrate and permeate. Brains, languages and bodies have evolved as a team, all in one, all together. 

Everything is adapted to evolve in perfection. Unless it is disturbed.


Can people really think they just re-invent what has taken so long to create an inclusion of wording and feeling, of expression and association?

Whenever they try, they also separate bodies from brains; they split. The usual kind of schizophrenia we are experiencing all around.

No one can separate thinking from doing unless being separated in oneself. We need the word - in brain - to sort what we experience around, to share, to compare. We use them to bring together pictures, sensual information, any kind of environmental with inner information and vice versa.

So if people separate thinking and feeling (as sensual information processing) from doing, if either they never have learned these processes in good ways or were inhibited to learn or do so, they automatically separate themselves ... from themselves and from reality. And as a result, most likely and unfortunately with them many others who are close or near. No one is an island. 'No man is an island' which is supposed to be a quote by John Donne as of 16hundredsomething ... already includes the torn word 'man'. 'Man' has a meaning in human lingual evolution - and this one has been contorted and abused, too. It is very difficult to use language these days without being misunderstood or causing associations which are not intended just because at times words have been loaded and backpacked.

Reality is the information we need to process to act in ways which are constructive. 'Re-Al' not only but also, is formed by words. Words are visualization tools.

Views create words.

Words create view(s).



So just, some words on words from also a limited perspective.


Enjoy a fruitful Sunday, too. Or in-joy ... if you like so. ;)

Yours,
Lyn

29 June 2013

And a Little More

Just because I like it right now: In the Summertime. Was a special time that time :D And sometimes also I need ... just a little more non-sense because also the non-sense is fine with me. As long as it creates ... good feelings and does not hurt anyone. Don't know why I always need to explicitly say that. Should be naturally understood.


Risks

Take risks or you will never move forward.

Take risks - or you will never move anywhere. This is the way we learn. Without taking risks we would still be lying in our cradles - and would have been starved meanwhile. Would have been starved, long time ago.

Have we?

I can clearly say no.

What is it you can say?


Cheers, yours,
Lyn

26 June 2013

Primatology

Who is trying 

to preserve the past, does neither have a present nor a chance for future.

It is good

to be wary of the past, nevertheless - else the future might be passing without ever having begun.


pic from BBC UK, Nature Wildlife - Primates

No man can

walk north and south at the same time.

Many try 

though, and are amazed that either the one or the other recedes.


 

Just this for now, out of general daily observations.

Enjoy the day, yours,
Lyn

25 June 2013

Strong

We are strong when we are able to admit weaknesses.

A weak one can't.





It just is wise to be clear about towards whom we admit. And sometimes it is necessary for finding out who is how.

Have a great day!

;)

21 June 2013

Solstice.

Confusing times and mountains of changes. People freaking, it's hard to cope, it seems.

There's energy in the air which triggers covered up emotions. Covert realities, too.
So disturbing. So precious. And I believe it is for something good. I hope.

The no-good in between looks a little frightening though.

Let's see.


Re-gards, this time, to our magic plasma ball.

Lyn

19 June 2013

Drives and Needs

Though the last period of time brought me so many talks and new views - other views which always are of relevance to explore - one recent I cherish so much.

It was about the basic drives and needs. One option was, some output by a therapeutic coach transported to me by a wonderfully sensitive person: that every human wants (or needs) to be loved.

My issue was that it already would be a great achievement to feel understood (as a wanderer between worlds I do not often feel very understood, so I hope this wish is somewhat understandable). Already sometimes being understood would ease human lives so much if people would have someone who just 'understands'. Being loved is such a high goal that I bet many are giving it up long before their ship is leaving and go for somewhat minor by far. And also: what do we know what people understand by the term 'love'.

This one is very relative one. A child that has been tought that whenever it is abused this is because of being loved will connect abuse with love, or maybe in another situation will just not have any clue that love exists.

Until it learns to separate and analyze and starts to sort its peas - or lenses. The good ones - keep. The bad ones - digest (with a little help from some friends).

Then our talk moved towards the term 'accepted', and thus we were carried into the triangle of

accepting

understanding

love.


I need some more time to philosophically juggle with these three. Maybe you can do it meanwhile. I surely also will.

Now the other side is: what about a need to love - to actively love, something, someone, oneself?

Being loved is a need from earliest time on. A child needs to be cared for otherwise it will die. Sometimes humans function so simple. Only if we understand these basics we can go for further.


And the next issue is what happens if people constantly are denied their basic needs. If we create a social system, a way of living together which barely gets out of demanding what we can't get because every one is so needy so that he (or she) mainly wants to extract from others rather than give so that another one's needs can be met? Aren't we to a high degree living a system and in a self-created society like this? It all starts with fundamental physical relations like being born, being needy, needing care of parents who really can parent, who are able to work as a loving two in one (or one in one if no better is doable).

By the way, did you know that the understanding of relationship is happening in a very young child, long before it can consciously put anything together? Well, it's a basic programming we all receive by the relations of our parents and the direct, close environment. Only if we question at a point where our mind starts to wake up we can put these deepest impressions into place.

Next: where essentials needs are not met, the way to compensating is somewhat pre-programmed. I also have been talking lots to people who wish nothing more than to be loved, partly really having everything in life - except for love - and those constantly/consequently will do their very best to avoid this to happen, they even would push it away very harshly the moment it could start. They simply do not allow - so that by the damage of lack they have suffered they re-create the lack over and more. You - and I - know what the symptom is called that occurs from the repression of basic psychological needs.

So I would like to think about if one of our basic needs would be

the essential NEED TO LOVE

- not only being loved.

Then the question would be: to be or not to love.
And this, contrarily to being loved, is something anyone can decide and go for on his, her own.

And if we don't allow ourselves, if we deny to ourselves this fundamental drive:
what will happen from this? With and within us, but also in the wider, even the widest context?


Just a start for now. There are no objects. All subjects.
Others like you, others like me.

Enjoy the beautiful day.

Yours,
Lyn

17 June 2013

Meanwhile

Meanwhile, I am quite convinced it still has got to do with the war. Even several generations after, and even though it looks as if all went fine some time between. It has got to do with the ways people led their relations and how they dealt - or not dealt - with the pain they had suffered and seen. What they passed on as generational heritage. On all sides, by the way.

It does not matter what people think or tell or do.

It matters what we will be making from it.



Maybe cryptic - but sorry, that is me.

Ciao for now, yours,
Lyn